Or a monologue, or even a trialogue - depending on how many of our subpersonalities kick the topic in our heads, like a ball in a china shop) It is necessary to see and hear what is really happening around, as well as to keep your attic in order
Next is not just about the meditation of the empty mind. It is a state in which any kind of professional resides. This is the first step towards entering the notorious Stream. It is also a step towards getting out of the mirror labyrinth of illusions in which we live instead of the actual mobile reality.
It's much easier and energy cheaper for our mind to get on the rails of autopilot and simplify the world with other people to a static picture. Do not pay much attention outside, except for bright incentives like sales, demonstrations, cuteness, beauty, wars and accidents.
Other - to mark everything with the labels "good-bad", "right-wrong", "normal-abnormal" (this is my favorite!), "this we have already seen" and "right-guilty". Then sit yourself and cook in your favorite gruel of thoughts about your problems and highs.
Of course, this simple path leads to the most mediocre nowhere. If we want results, we will have to focus on the outside world. Which, by the way, is much easier than not thinking at all. You just need to distract yourself from your beloved.
Substance 20% of the attention on their feelings, which is necessary for the same adequacy of perception, the remaining 80 give to the interlocutor. Or the business that we are engaged in, whether it's the road, wood carving, accounting report, playing with the child…
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Where and only then can we catch the most important thing - the true state of affairs, and even in all the details. What and how exactly does a person say, how does he really feel? What exactly is the situation, what are the true reasons and participants?
The same way we become much more informed, and therefore better armed. Our decisions are based on more relevant facts, which reduces the risk of error. Including our own feelings, which we do not forget to monitor so as not to accidentally give ourselves wishful thinking and not to turn a blind eye to the undesirable.
Aud with whom it is more pleasant to communicate with people - with those who cook something in their pot, just waiting for their turn to speak, or with those who are keenly interested in our interests, looking directly into the eyes and asking clarifying questions?
Do any successful professionals, they do just that. In all areas of life, you can be pros. Health and sports, friendships, romantic relationships, family and children, hobbies, recreation, games - not only work.
You will see that even the icy needles of the eyes of an oligarch who has a huge amount of money with almost no personal time are carefully directed directly into your soul. He only needs seconds to read you, so he is so good at this business, otherwise he would not be an oligarch, but he will definitely give them to you completely, and will not smugly hang the label "slave so-and-so, we know-we know" ))
Let's devote today to this practice for the sake of experiment. Wash the cup - think only about the cup, listen only to the interlocutor, concentrate only on the one thing that you are doing. As a result, you will spend less energy, do more things, show only the one thing that you are doing.Be the surrounding attentive interlocutor, and also avoid a lot of mistakes.
If it doesn't work, you're either sad/savoring the past or worrying/hoping for the future. There's probably something to clean up.