To most people, choosing an online psychologist or psychotherapist is a very exciting and responsible step. A properly selected specialist will not only help you solve the problem you have in the shortest possible time, but also teach you how to cope with life's adversities in the future.
In addition, if you choose a psychologist who is not suitable for you, you can completely remain disappointed in psychology and lose the opportunity to solve your problems. Therefore, this article will give five basic principles, adhering to which, you can competently choose the right psychologist.
1. A psychologist should be sympathetic to you as a person.
In our time, the choice of an online psychologist most often begins with a search on the Internet. Already at this stage, you need to focus on those specialists who like you externally, whose photo you like.
Assory, what would be the appearance here? However, with this person you have to share your experiences and problems, and this is easier to do with those people who are pleasant to us, both externally and internally. Therefore, even the appearance of a specialist should be approached seriously. Ideally, looking at a photo of a psychologist, you should feel a positive emotional response.
More, you should focus on what the psychologist writes about himself in the questionnaire. What problems he deals with, what kind of education he received, often psychologists indicate their life position and the directions of psychotherapy in which they work. According to these data, you will also be able to assess whether this particular specialist is suitable for you or not
But, of course, whether your psychologist finally understands whether this is a psychologist or not, you can only at the first personal reception. And there is nothing terrible if you do not immediately pick up the right specialist. You just need to try again and take into account the principles that will be written later.
2. The psychologist should be mentally healthy in the area where you have problems.
What do you mean here? For example, if you want to lose weight, you should not go to a psychologist with obvious signs of obesity. If you want to get rid of bad habits, such as smoking, then, again, you should not choose a smoking specialist. If you want to build a long-term relationship and get married, then you should not turn to a divorced woman.
To find out all this information about a psychologist, you can either in his profile on the Internet, or call and directly ask questions of interest to you. There is nothing in this, because you want to solve your problem and be sure that this person is competent in this matter. Good psychologists will absolutely normally treat such questions.
3. A psychologist should have experience in personal psychotherapy.
This is necessary for the psychologist to achieve mental health himself and be able to detect his so-called «blind spots». «Blind spots» - this is what psychologists themselves do not know or do not notice, but what people around them perfectly see in them
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In addition, a psychologist who has been in the client's shoes can understand much better what his interlocutor is experiencing at a particular moment, since he himself has already passed this path. Such an experience greatly affects the ability of the psychotherapist at the right time to encourage the client, establish closer contact and showempathy.
4. You should feel the effect of therapy from the first sessions and understand how the work is going on.
You do not hesitate to ask the psychologist questions about what he thinks about your problem, what hypotheses he has about the causes of its occurrence, how the work will be built and how you will eventually become better. The client should always understand how and what happens during therapy. This not only better structures the conversation, but also teaches the client to use the techniques used by the therapist in the future to solve problems that arise in the future.
Cassing effect of psychotherapy, then ideally, it should be felt after the first two or three sessions. If you are undergoing sessions with a psychologist and do not understand how and due to what he works with you, and even more so, if you do not feel improvements, then you should think about finding a new specialist.
5. An online psychologist should have knowledge in any areas of psychotherapy.
There are a lot of different areas of psychotherapy practiced by online psychologists and psychotherapists: classical psychoanalysis, gestalt therapy, existential therapy, systemic-family psychotherapy, cognitive-behavioral psychotherapy and many others
De different problems and people, different approaches to psychotherapy may be suitable. You can read about each of them separately and choose the approach that seems closest to you. And with this in mind, look for the right specialist. But it is worth considering that there is only one direction of psychotherapy with scientifically proven effectiveness – this is cognitive-behavioral psychotherapy. Therefore, it is best to turn your attention to this type of therapy.
T find out in which areas the specialist works can also be in his questionnaire on the Internet, or by asking a question by phone.
This hope the principles described in the article will help you choose the right psychologist and improve the quality of your life! We wish you successful searches and psychological well-being!