The most effective thing is to be the best of yourself, and not someone else. Because the latter either will not work at all, or will devnch so much strength that well, we all have a bunch of positive, pleasant and useful qualities on a par with fears, neuroses and disorders, which are considered to be weaknesses or bad character traits. But under them are hidden, again, quite constructive things, who just didn't like our parents, caregivers and teachers at the time. Suppressing them in us, they turned it into an erring over the subject.
E.for example, a love of freedom, which can manifest itself in the form of creativity or a craving for research, they saw as disobedience. Forbidding the adept of freedom to do what he wants, you can only induce resentful and intimidated resistance in the form of revolutionary moods, hooliganism and alcoholism. Rewind this story, and you will see how you can return to the original manifestations of creativity and research.
We're afraid of a large crowd of people, looking around, making sure that no one steals anything and spills their beer on you? Fine, stay sober and be a nanny for your careless friends, who you will then also take home. Since you can't socialize differently, take advantage of what you have. After all, it makes you unique and very necessary. And let it seem like a job, and not rest, you can just work out such events, but in their eyes you are the most reliable, caring and responsible person, it is pleasant to deal with you.
Afraid to be alone with yourself? Hang out endlessly, it's networking! Angry - protect your own by speaking out against others. It's easy to envy - set yourself the goal of making friends and repeating their success. Don't like people - work in the lab or remotely, you will be one of the best workers. Too soft and friendly - become a facilitator of conflicts, reconcile aggressors. Overly aggressive - engage in sales, courts and competitive sports. Take offense and remember this for a long time - become a facilitator of conflicts, reconcile aggressors. Overly aggressive - engage in sales, courts and competitive sports. Take offense and remember this for a long time - become a facilitator of conflicts, reconcile aggressors. Overly aggressive - engage in sales, courts and competitive sports. Take offense and remember this for a long time - become a prosecutor or a lawyer. All the time you feel all the right and guilty - help other people.
Sample your weaknesses and shortcomings from a new perspective. Remove the labels of badness from them and figure out what is useful in them, how you can apply such properties to work and relationships. By stopping fighting them and suppressing them, as well as feeling guilty for their presence, you will free up a lot of time and effort, as well as discover new opportunities, which they hadn't been aware of before. In the process, resentment will emerge against those who have imposed on you that this is "bad". It's okay, work through these grievances, let the characters out of your emotional memory, release even more energy. And then just send it somewhere for peaceful purposes. Where exactly - you can easily come up with it, because the presence of energy generates creative thinking, so you will definitely understand everything!